"It is far more impressive when others discover your good qualities without your help."
A close confidant once mentioned something that goes a little like this "Suemae, I am happy to have known you. You are a young and intelligent young woman with many successes and more to come; but somehow I sense that there is something that causes certain sadness within you." I do not deny it. There is a shadow of my past that still looms within me. It still casts a dark shade over me whenever I attempt to face it. I guess it will always be a part of me, just like the many flaws I have that needs time to overcome, but I am still thankful for them as they keep me rooted down to earth.
I am thankful for the people and situations God placed in my life. Good or bad, there is always something to learn as I continue to develop. There are also people and situations where you can not choose--who you are related to or the background you were born into. However, there is a choice and you can make a decision on how you want to treat them and how you wish to live.
People would say "When life gives you lemons, make lemonade." True, but what if you are equipped with culinary skills or any other where you can make lemon marmalade or research on grow something different. The process is hard, one might be burnt while cooking over the stove; but it is still something that he or she does with the lemon--to seek for something better using their skills and talents. My ranting might seem that I am ungrateful, but as mentioned, I consider it all blessings and opportunities that will shape me to become a better person. However, I need not suffer in silence when I can still moan, whimper, and complain. (Laughs!)
A piece of great news came to me of late and I could not wait to share it with my loved ones and those closest to me. I know that they will share the excitement through the encouragement and support I have received from them, and are elated for our shared prayers are answered. I also had to break the news to people that I am socially obligated to out of respect. Even though their opinions might not matter to me now as I am an adult, I would have appreciated if they did share the joy. Nevertheless, I can not have everything that I would like to have. Instead of getting the ideal where even if they do not agree or approve they would still be happy and proud for I am going after the dreams that I want (which are not bad in any way), they told me that I should be content with what I have and start running on quotes to show that we should all accept what was dished out to us. Well, you do not have to rain on my party. Even if you are not supportive of my quest for my dreams, IF you can not be encouraging or supportive, at least, please, do not even try to keep me away from going the distance.
Giving the benefit of doubt that this person may not truly know me, my potentials, and/or my dreams... but still, she could have played along and be nice. Maybe she is trying to protect me from getting over my head, but what I want to do does not have any detrimental effect to myself or the society. In fact, with the skills and maybe, talents that I have (comments by the experienced of the field) I would actually do well. I would shoulder the blame that I have not been sharing my life in detail with this person, but it is just that every time I do try to get closer, I get disappointment by their lack of enthusiasm.
I am sorry that I do not want to live the life that you want for me--be it for your benefit or mine. I thought that as long as I am independent, able to care for myself and do not fall onto the path that leads to self destruction you would be happy. All I have strived for in achievements in everything I do--studies, activities, maturing as a person--I hope that you would be proud of me, but it seems that you are not. Do you understand success as how the material eyes of society define it? Do you think that I am going to be happy with my life as long as I am reaping in mega bucks, driving an expensive car and living in a huge house? I choose to live a life of simplicity but not in need. I would like to wake up every morning with a purpose, loving what I do, knowing that I can be a better person and make the world a better place with the little contribution that I have. Living with my faith, I strive to become a better person and reach the full potential of my skills and talents while keeping the humanity within me.
Are you ashamed of me? I am sorry if you are. All I ever wanted is for you to be happy. You do not have to be proud of me if in practice, the essence of whom I am mean that little to you. I wish and pray that our relationship will be better. I try, I get burned. I really wish to give up, but I choose not to as humanity or basic instinct, my Asian roots or my liberal thought will still say that it is the right thing to do. If I am numbed by this feeling, it means that our relationship has truly died. Silence or a monologue between us will be simply, sad.
God, teach me how to love and open our hearts that we will hear your voice. Amen